Children Killing Their Parents

As upsetting as it is, there are numerous blogs on how to kill your parents. Unlike elder abuse, killing younger parents seems to be voyeuristic entertainment. This surprising revelation is worrisome

The animosity children feel towards their parents provides a necessary feeling of detachment, augurs for a healthy separation process from their parents. It is how they differentiate themselves from their primary influences in life in order for them to become whole persons. Such feelings are nothing new. The surprise being websites devoted to killing one’s parents, with instructions. Then the second surprise was the statistics.

For more than two decades, Kathleen Heide from the University of South Florida has been conducting analysis of homicides where children kill their parents. In the USA about five parents a week are killed by their biological children. Matricide—where the mother is murdered--and patricide—where the father is murdered—are both very rare events and constitute about 1 percent of all homicides in the United States—but we have a lot of homicides in the US.

In a 2011 report from the Department of Justice, Alexia Cooper and Erica L. Smith reported a change in trend of family homicide. The most common were homicide by a spouse or ex-spouse, which is declining from 52% of all family homicides in 1980 to 37% in 2008. Children killed by their parents were the second most frequent type of family homicide. This is seeing an increase, from 15% in 1980 to 25% in 2008. But the fastest growing homicide is the last category where parents are killed by one of their children. This type of homicide has been increasing steadily from 9.7% of all family homicides in 1980 to 13% in 2008. Children killing their parents is the fastest growing type of family homicide. In the latest federal statistics both matricide and patricide is committed primarily by sons between 16-19 years and then declines rapidly at older ages.

In 1993 Clifford J. Linedecker wrote a book on “Killer Kids” where he reports that there were over a million assaults in the USA by children on their parents, some were fatal. He documents some of the most horrific cases. Most use their parents’ guns, others use knives, axes and any available weapon. The younger killers are more likely to use their parents’ gun.

Since patricide is most frequent (nearly twice as likely as matricide) and  increasing, there might be a number of reasons for this. With increasing breakdown of family structure in the USA--with one in two marriages ending up in divorce--there is a risk of one parent alienating their children against the second parent. Parental alienation is on the increase as are children killing their fathers. Very often the father (rather than the mother) becomes portrayed as the reason for all the negative emotions. Parental alienation does not start or end with divorce. But there are reasons for this behavior. We just need to find that reasoning, however repugnant and irrational.

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